The Greatest of Their Generation?

I used to admire other cultures for the way they valued their elderly.  I often lamented that Americans didn't seem to share this esteem and regard for the folks who lived well into the years. Then I began working at an assisted living facility and my entire perspective changed.

The beauty of such an experience is that you gain exposure to a large cross section of people and personalities in a short amount of time.  As the years go on you can literally interact with hundreds of people.  Many people earn your respect and you put them into the category of seniors who should be admired for their wisdom.  They are the people who make you believe that other cultures get it right.
Others, however, quickly shatter your naivete and make you realize that there is nothing inherently noble about old age; no reason to presume that acumen or enlightenment go hand in hand with the years.

I've come to the conclusion that age is much like alcohol; it aides in revealing your true character.  If you were a kind, generous, thoughtful soul in your youth, most likely you'll be all of those things to a greater degree in your old age.  But for every wise and wonderful character who lives to a ripe old age, there is a jerk who just happened to still be sticking around.   The folks who were selfish, narcissistic, rude in their youth will grow to be all the more so in their longevity.

It's a fascinating study of the human psyche, really; how some seniors maintain their dignity, independence and positive outlook in spite of the challenges that come with advanced age.  Others seem to believe that by living to a ripe old age they've earned the right to do nothing for themselves, to demand that you treat them with respect, even when they show no respect for you or themselves for that matter.  The people who are vile and emotionally decrepit are not due any sort of esteem as a result of the clicking of the calendar.  They have not earned a position of respect simply because they have lived a long time.  But some are worthy of reverence, due deference.  Some are wise and sage and deserve to be placed on a pedestal, set aside so that we can learn from their valuable experiences.  Cherish and value these folks.  Sit with them, listen to their stories.  Appreciate them, learn from them, and live in such a way that some day you will be someone worthy of admiration.